“Am I Smart?”
Rethinking Intelligence in a World Obsessed with Being “Smart”
“Mama, am I smart?”
I looked over at the little head studiously bent over coloring pages and homeschool books and smiled. His chubby hand grasped crayons awkwardly as misshapen letters and numbers floated across the page with little regard for assigned boxes or numbered lines.
Was he smart?
What does that even mean?
What a question.
It’s a question we feel challenged by on a regular basis. In a digital world where expansive innovation happens minute by minute, it’s easy to feel left behind and ignorant if you lose sight of even the smallest detail.
The education that seemed so all-inclusive back then shrinks in relevance compared to the constant fluctuation of skills now required just to comprehend where you are in the world — let alone function in it. We aren’t even talking about mastering skills or achieving anything notable. We’re just trying to survive long enough to make it to the next leap in technology or society, hoping we can adapt, expand, achieve, and — if all the stars align — maybe even be successful.
But what does it mean to be smart?
Depending on your source?
There are as few as four and as many as nineteen types of intelligence. And by the time I got to the guy who said there were nineteen, I figured they were just making it up. Since it’s not an exact science, I’ll tell you about the ways I see intelligence around me.
Full disclosure: I’m not an expert. I’m an armchair philosopher with a brain that tends to spin off in odd directions.
Cunning. Adaptive. Academic. Intuitive. Social.
As someone who pays attention to people, those are the five types I see most often. These aren’t Enneagrams or Myers-Briggs categories, and I’m not giving you a test to discover your “type.”
I think we have the capacity to grow in all these areas. Sure, some come naturally and some feel like pulling teeth, but it’s unwise to limit yourself to only the one area you find most comfortable. That kind of blindness can be disastrous.
Also — side note?
If someone has to remind you how smart they are by endlessly quoting IQ numbers and test scores, they’ve already shown they aren’t smart enough to keep having a conversation that matters. Sometimes those “misunderstood geniuses” are misunderstood because they aren’t actually saying anything coherent… not because no one else is smart enough to understand them.
Academic Intelligence
The most easily measured intelligence is academic. Success is measured in grades, test scores, and the capacity for “right answers” according to standardized metrics.
Academic intelligence often shows up as an aptitude for ingesting information, processing it, and reusing it in ways tied to the source material. Without that ability, or without easy access to it, you don’t test well. Poor testing limits your ability to prove you can incorporate new data and repeat it back with understanding.
Academics come easily to people who seem to live in a blank-slate world where new information scrawls across their consciousness and instantly becomes part of their worldview.
If life were only about gathering facts, parsing them, and regurgitating them?
They’d be solid rock stars.
And yet we put an extremely high value on people who navigate academia successfully. We hand them letters to put after their name and certificates to hang on the wall. Then we train ourselves to defer to those letters as though their achievements elevate them beyond flaw or failure. Those who are less academic often see themselves as having less value, less perception, and even less right to speak into the world they inhabit.
It always makes me laugh a little — and feel a little sad — when I see wild appeals to authority on social media.
“Dr. Whojamaflip, Ph.D., has offered an opinion on Name That Thing.”
The crowd goes wild.
Until you realize his Ph.D. is in a completely unrelated field, or worse, honorary, and he just waxed long and eloquent about the consequences of Not Following the Party Line on the current crisis.
But sure… buy his book for $24.99 at all available retail outlets.
Cunning Intelligence
Some people see through this sham instantly because their intelligence lies in a more subtle form: street-smarts.
Jackie, my Irish-Italian friend from New Jersey, looked at me one day while I rattled off Bible study facts and said in her East Coast twang,
“Heidi, you are smart. But I’m street-smart.”
I didn’t fully understand what she meant at the time. My value for Knowing Things was… let’s just say “intensely directed.”
But she wasn’t wrong.
Jackie could read a room, sell ice to a snowman, and outmaneuver most people in a battle of wills. She didn’t need to know the rise and fall of Constantinople to recognize authority structures, navigate complicated business deals, or see the emptiness of someone who knows things but has no idea how to live.
People with this kind of intelligence navigate the world with ease. They see the potholes long before anyone else and adjust without panic. There’s no Master’s in How Not to Get Ripped Off — but there should be.
Intuitive Intelligence
Closely associated with cunning is intuitive intelligence — the famous “gut feeling.”
You don’t always understand why something is right or wrong… you just know.
The toddler who doesn’t like the nursery worker.
The teenagers who become instant best friends.
The job interview that feels wrong before the first question.
The stranger you click with in a heartbeat.
People high in intuitive intelligence read people and situations with amplified sensitivity. It’s not exact knowledge — more like color added to a black-and-white sketch. And yes, used poorly, it can make for one heck of a manipulator.
Social Intelligence
Social intelligence gets marketed as “10 Ways to Make People Love You,” but flash cards won’t help you here. People who are naturally high in this intelligence don’t “work the room.”
They sparkle.
And it’s more than charisma. Their intelligence is reflected in the wide circles of relationships they nurture. They become caregivers, connectors, and the heartbeat of communities. What feels tedious to the streetwise or itemizable to the academic is instinctive to them — relating to people is simply how they understand the world.
Adaptive Intelligence
This one shows up first in babies. They arrive as a noodle-neck sack of need and within days start gathering information, adjusting themselves, and learning to function in the world. By six months they have a communication system. By four years they’ve mastered language, social integration, motor skills, and engagement with people vastly more complex than they are.
And honestly? They adapt us to their needs far faster than we adapt them to ours.
Adaptive adults do something similar. They mold themselves into almost any environment with grace. They fill gaps where awkwardness lives. They smooth sharp edges where personalities clash. They refill empty cups and coax wallflowers into conversation.
But there’s a cost.
What I call the “chameleon effect.”
When you’re good at adapting everywhere, it can be hard to know who you are alone. Your security comes from blending in. From belonging to the group.
Who are you without them?
Why does any of this matter?
Because whichever intelligence resonates most deeply with you will shape how successful you feel in your culture, your community, your life. And it often becomes the measuring stick for whether you believe you matter.
Which brings me back to where I was headed all along.
I love smart people. But for a long time, “smart” meant encyclopedic knowledge of C.S. Lewis, pedantic guffaws about grammar, and a stubborn insistence on three-syllable words. A grotesque amplification of academic intelligence.
Honestly?
Embarrassing.
Give me a redneck in a zombie apocalypse any day, amirite?
Academic intelligence has its place. So do philosophy, logic, and the sciences. But in context.
In. Context.
Nobody cares if you can code in the Amazonian jungles.
Nobody cares about your vocabulary when their heart is breaking.
Which of all these intelligences has mattered most throughout human history?
Breakfast.
Warmth.
Connection.
Survival.
And yet here we are in 21st century Western civilization, slaving over keyboards crafting pithy text. Words matter.
Words. Matter.
Literacy matters.
We have a responsibility to use our words wisely and graciously — and with humility as we expand our appreciation for the brilliance all around us. Sometimes that brilliance manifests in little boys who refuse to learn the alphabet until someone explains the logic of letters.
Don’t lose sight of the value our grandparents carried in simple community, shaped by war and want, without the pressure of blue check marks.
Academic, adaptive, cunning, intuitive, social…
I like the absolutes of the test takers and note keepers. I am challenged by the malleability of the adaptive and intuitive. I lack the strategic instincts of the cunning and the social.
That’s why I need them.
Maybe they need me too. Because we should all understand the impact of a well-placed adverb.
If we pigeonhole the “smart” into a tightly closed inbox labeled Acceptable and throw everyone else into Ignorant, we lose the capacity to see humanity as a whole. We divide ourselves by access to information rather than the capacity to learn, live, adapt, survive.
“Mama, am I smart?” he asked, big brown eyes locked on mine — not challenging, not fearful.
Searching.
He wasn’t asking where he ranked.
He was asking if the way he saw and inhabited the world mattered.
He was asking if he had the capacity to succeed.
“Absolutely, sweetheart.
You have a most beautiful brain.”


Heidi you do have a way with words that is as satisfying as a pleasing song. Almost a synesthesia’s ability to use all the senses to express your thoughts.
Even though a picture is worth a thousand words, a thousand of your words evoke 10000 images.
But intelligence is difficult to measure and thank goodness for that because no one should be labeled as lacking.